Developing Attractive Personailty
What is Personality?
Personality is the sum total of ways in which an individual reacts and interacts with others. Or Personality
is generally defined as the deeply ingrained and relatively enduring patterns of thought, feeling and
behavior. In fact, when one refers to personality, it generally implies to all what is unique about an
individual, the characteristics that makes one stand out in a crowd.
Self-analysis
Self-analysis requires people to examine themselves as an object in an experience or event. It
requires a person to step back and observe the positive and the negative impact that may have
influenced behaviours, attitudes, thoughts or interactions. Self-analysis is not always an easy
process, yet it is a necessary skill for synthesizing information relevant to professional or personal
effectiveness.
The self-analysis process should begin with reflection on and exploration of thoughts and feelings
associated with effective events. By reflecting on these feelings and thoughts, individuals can
obtain new perspectives relevant to their lives based on these learning experiences. From
obtaining new knowledge and perspectives, individuals can become more effective by
implementing new behavioural and cognitive changes in future situations.
Behaviour
Behaviour is the way in which we conduct ourselves-the way in which we act. Our
behaviour is influenced by our feelings, judgments, beliefs, motivations, needs, experience
and opinions of others. Patterns of behaviour develop through our reactions to events and
actions over a period of time. Behaviour consist of four components:
Motivation: The drive to pursue one action over another. Being aware of our core
drivers, those things that motivate you positively or negatively- can help you
understand the roots of your behaviour and make adjustments as necessary to
modify your behaviour.
Modes of thinking: the way you process the various inputs your brain receives.
Being aware of how you take in and make sense of information can help you
understand how you make judgments or decisions that lead to choosing one
behaviour or course of action over another.
Modes of acting: the course of action you apply in a given situation. Being aware
of how you express your reaction to the things that happen to and around you can
help you understand the alternatives available to you when certain events arise.
Modes of interacting: the way in which you communicate and share ideas, opinions
and feelings with others. Being aware of how you talk and work with others can
help you understand how your preferred style meshes with those with whom you
work and live.
